10 Things I Hope My 10 Year Old Knows

Today is Taylor Grace’s 10th birthday! If you follow me on social media, you’ve seen the eventful weekend we had celebrating her entrance to the double digits! I am completely exhausted, but it was all worth it. Truly, it was.

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Because I love number themed posts, I’m sharing 10 things I hope Taylor knows, in honor of her 10th birthday.

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How much I like her!

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A mother’s love is unconditional, but I can honestly say, I like my child! She’s funny, sweet, and easy to talk to. She actually enjoys spending time with her family still, which is something I miss about my teenage son! I really like who she is as a person. I hope she knows that.

How proud I am of her!

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Taylor has had her share of challenges, mostly in school, but definitely with listening at home as well. It took me a while to figure out that she can’t completely help her difficultly focusing or retaining information. Once I realized better how her brain works, I was able to change a lot of the ways I approach parenting her and things have been sooo much better! Her last report card didn’t have a single C! I am so proud of what a hard worker she is, how much she’s improved, not only in school but at home as well, and how impressed I am with her ability to overcome so many obstacles. I hope she knows that.

How thankful I am for her helpfulness!

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Taylor is my mini-me. She may not look like me, but she has my OCD personality. She is a visual person, striving for perfection in the way her surroundings look. She has my compulsive desire to have everything organized, which is hard with three little kids in the house. She can get pretty upset when her sisters mess with her stuff, but she’s taken my advice and has taken it upon herself to teach them how to be organized! I am so thankful that she not only gets her sisters to clean up after themselves, but she helps them with homework, gives them baths, gets them ready for bed, and so many other things around the house! I have long wished for a clone to help with the never-ending duties around the house, and I feel like that prayer has been answered! She is so helpful to me. I hope she knows that.

How glad I am she loves gymnastics!

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It could have been cheerleading, soccer, softball, karate, even football, I’m just glad she found a sport that she loves and works hard to improve in. I’m not gonna lie, out of all of the sports she’s tried (cheerleading, soccer, softball, and karate), gymnastics is my favorite. It’s indoor, it’s once a week, and I can drop her off. I don’t like the price so much (it’s $86/month if I pay for 4 months at a time, which is over $1,000/year), but I hope to one day have enough in the budget for all 4 of my girls to take gymnastics! I thoroughly enjoy watching her flip around at the gym, and at the house with her sisters. I hope she knows that.

How beautiful I think she is!

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I think Taylor is such a beautiful girl, inside and out! She has such a big heart, full of compassion and love for all of God’s creatures. She’s tall and slim, so I’m completely jealous of her body (oh, to be young again!).

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She has such a pretty face (those sapphire eyes! those freckles! those slightly crooked teeth!). Her hair looks great short or long (again, jelly!). She’s honestly one of the prettiest girls I’ve ever seen, and I’m not just saying that because I love her! LOL! I hope she knows that.

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How I adore her little obsessions!

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Taylor has been obsessed with American Girl, Brataley, and Shopkins for a while now. She spends every dollar she gets on adding to her collections. I’m not a collector, so it was pretty hard for me at first watching her “throw away” all of her money on “stuff.” But she really enjoys and takes care of her belongings (and “her” money is supposed to be for whatever “she” wants). I get [almost] just as excited as she does when she gets a new addition. Her obsessions have led her to a love for making her own YouTube videos, which I think are ridiculously adorable. I’ve even started helping her make and post her videos to YouTube! What can I say? Somehow, she’s managed to suck me into her world! I’m so glad to get to connect with her through the things she loves. I hope she knows that.

How grateful I am that she’s such a great big sister!

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I’m the oldest of 3 girls, so I know what it’s like to be a big sister. I remember having to baby-sit and drive my sisters around. I hated it. My sisters and I didn’t get along until we were pretty much grown. My girls are the complete opposite. They are best friends, even Taylor, who’s 4-6 years older than the rest of the girls. I love that she plays with them, teaches them, and nurtures them. She’s like their second mother! She is such an important part of her sisters’ lives, molding them into who they will be when they’re older. She is such a great role model, sister, and friend. I hope she knows that.

How confident I am that she will be successful in life!

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For me, success isn’t defined by the amount of possessions you own, how high on the career ladder you climb, or how big your bank account is, it’s how happy and how loved you are. If you love your life and the people in it, and you have people that love you and make you happy, you are successful. If you happen to have a great career that brings you the money to be able to afford nice possessions, that’s a great bonus! I just know that having all the money in the world can’t buy happiness or love, so without those things, money is worthless. I’d rather my kids be poor and happy than rich and miserable (not that I’m saying all poor people are happy or all rich people are miserable…I’d prefer my kids to turn out to be rich happy people if possible! LOL!). Over the last 10 years I have witnessed the things that are important to Taylor, and I am confident that she will be successful because she cares deeply about others and knows how to go after the things that make her happy. She is responsible, reliable, honest (to a fault), motivated, and confident. I hope she knows that.

How hard I try to be a good mom for her!

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Growing up, my mom worked a lot. When she came home, she was tired. Between being gone all day and being too tired to do anything but cook and clean for us each night, my mom didn’t do things like go on field trips, eat lunch at school, take me to extracurricular activities, plan play dates and sleepovers, or even drive me to my friends’ houses if I was invited out. My mom didn’t ask me about school or help me with my homework. She didn’t talk to me about my body, or boys. She didn’t cuddle with me, read me stories, or tuck me into bed. The things I remember my mom doing were working, cooking, shopping, and cleaning. I never equated those things as part of being a good mom. When I became an adult, I realized they are! My mom showed her love in different ways, but growing up, I felt unloved, unwanted, abandoned, alone. I decided as soon as I got pregnant with my first child that I would show my kids so much love that they would never ever doubt for a second how deeply I care for them. I try so hard to really listen when she speaks to me, not push too hard, encourage her enough, let things go to keep the peace, give her the freedom to make many of her own decisions (which is really hard for this control freak!), be active in her school and social life, and accept her for who she is, to love her unconditionally. Just like any mom, I fail constantly, but I never stop trying to be better. I hope she knows that.

How blessed I am to be her mom!

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Taylor is such a blessing in my life. She makes me a better person. She has forced me to see life from a perspective unlike my own. She has challenged me as a parent, making me a better parent. I can already see that we are going to be the best of friends for the rest of our lives, and I’m grateful for that. I’m so blessed to get to watch her spread her wings and fly. It’s hard to let go, but I hope she flies as far and as high as she desires…and if she ever needs a place to land, my arms are always open wide. I hope she knows that.

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Happy 10th Birthday Taylor Grace! No matter how old you are, you’ll always be my baby!

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